What is Self-Empowerment?
Self-Empowerment is more of an awareness of your power and control of your own life than it is something you need to obtain.
Most people think that life happens to them and that circumstances in their lives are not under their control. For various reasons that I don’t want to get into on this site, that is not true in the least. Instead of arguing and discussing why that is the case on JSOhlander.com, we are going to complete bypass that argument and go right into the discussion of how we can become aware of our own Self-Empowerment.
We will discuss many, many ways to exercise your own Self-Empowerment in your life. Most of these exercises will take a lot of emotional work and inner-searching to find the true control of your life you had with you all of the time and are just discovering.
Self-Empowerment isn’t something you suddenly have or do not have. You can be self-empowered in certain areas of your life and completely disempowered in other parts, even if you are logically aware that you control 100% of your life.
A Simple Exercise in Self-Empowerment
If you’ve never grasped the fact that you could have true Self-Empowerment in your own life, I’m going to give you a quick exercise to bring this concept into your awareness so you can start recognizing your own control over your own life.
- Write down three situations in your life that currently give you some trouble. Do not pick the biggest challenges in your life. Pick something very small that gives you some minor annoyance or frustration that you have not yet found a solution to or haven’t had the time to deal with.
- After you have written these three situations down, go through each one, one at a time. Read it and bring it to your awareness.
- Imagine the situation solved exactly the way you want it to be. Now, just confirm to yourself that you have complete control over this situation and you have the ability to bring about it’s perfect outcome.
- Write down 10 ways of looking at this situation that either
a) remove it completely from your life,
b) change it to your advantage, or
c) solve it in a way you have not thought of.Don’t dismiss this as too simple. Do the exercise and be serious and playful about it at the same time. Once you start, you could easily come up with 25 or more ways of looking at this situation that will help bring a quick and easy solution to your mind.
- Look at your list and pick your favorite solution/outcome for each situation. Feel it as if it has already happened. Continue on with your life in full faith that it is solved or changed. Watch how the solution easily unfolds.
That’s all there is to this. Simple. Too simple, right?
Simple if you do it. Impossible if you don’t.
This is an easy concept called “reframing”. It’s looking at a situation in a completely different light. Just reframing a situation will often change it very quickly. Not only will you respond differently to the situation, but those around you will pick up on your change in attitude and perspective and automatically shift themselves to the solution. It works literally like magic.
Bring this awareness to you as you go about your day. Keep a journal if it helps. It often seems to good to be true when this happens. Write it down and catalog it each time it happens. You will build your confidence in this reframing exercise and begin to trust and believe.
Reframing is one of the most potent methods of exercising your Self-Empowerment. There are many, many others that we will discuss on JSOhlander.com.
For now, do the best you can to know that you are in complete 100% control of your life.
You can literally have the Best Life Ever. It’s up to you. You don’t have to be trapped in your situations and circumstances. It truly is under your control!
Start cultivating your Self-Empowerment today. Don’t wait. Life is not worth living unless you have complete 100% control over it.
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I am getting a notebook as soon as I hit send. I am loving the journey you're on right now. And I really appreciate that you are willing to share it. So…thank you.
The journey never ends.
Please share your results with the exercise if you do, I'd love to get some feedback.
I have my list and my solutions and I feel freaking empowered by having taken a step forward. I have a long history of starting things and not following through or giving up. When I did the visualization I actually smiled about the outcome. I'm going to hold on to that. I'll let you know my progress.
About the journey…totally agree.
Excellent!
I'm always working on my Self-Empowerment. Like most of life, this is a never-ending journey of self-discovery.
But I believe that Self-Empowerment is one of the most absolutely essential concepts to consciously “get” and to consciously exercise in one's life.
I'm having issues. It's like I'm rebelling against myself. I'm trying to keep up the self-dialogue and trying to stay positive, but it's like I'm sabotaging myself. I'm actually catching myself putting things off and half-assing things. Blah.
Did you have have this problem at all? Any nuggets you can share o' wise one?
Hmmmm, well, I'm certainly not a wise one, just a fellow explorer or life sharing my experiences with others.
No one technique is going to change your life, but every little thing you can do to help give you an advantage is life can lead to greater results.
I still “put things off” like everybody else, but what I'm learning over the years is that sometimes when you put something off, it might just be because you don't really need to do it.
What do you REALLY love to do, day-to-day in your life. Do what you feel you MUST do to “keep your life going” and spend the rest of your time doing only what you truly, truly love to do.
Hmmmm, well, I’m certainly not a wise one, just a fellow explorer or life sharing my experiences with others.
No one technique is going to change your life, but every little thing you can do to help give you an advantage is life can lead to greater results.
I still “put things off” like everybody else, but what I’m learning over the years is that sometimes when you put something off, it might just be because you don’t really need to do it.
What do you REALLY love to do, day-to-day in your life. Do what you feel you MUST do to “keep your life going” and spend the rest of your time doing only what you truly, truly love to do.